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But I assure you, not every guy my age is lusting after sex.
Again, what I mean here are no sexual intentions, just being with her. She's in the prime of her youth, where she will change a lot and experience tons of new things.
I'm fearing it will change too much, and she'll eventually leave me (like my ex did, when she experienced the outgoing life, she wanted to be free.) I don't want to be a snack, or be with her all for nothing because it might wind up being the same as her. Next time I'll see her I'm going to have a talk with her about this..
She just isn't opening up to me, maybe because she's scared of me (she mentioned because I'm a lot older it's extra hard for her) but that also hurts my side, since you don't want to hear from your partner she's scared of being with you at times.
She also occasionly avoids me or doesn't do much effort to be with me.
Sure, 4-5 year difference doesn't sound to bad, but it is when you are younger.
As you said, she is going through changes, and she will want to do her own thing and not be committed to a relationship - and the relationships she will be involved with are just learning experiences - but you on the other hand are looking for a lasting relationship; I'm almost certain you aren't going to have a lasting relationship with this girl.
However maturity levels do matter, in my relationship the age difference has never been a problem because we are both at the same level maturity wise- We both have the capacity to be serious and terribly immature, but I never think, oh she's acting like such an 17 year old. We open up to each other, but again, age is not a factor in that- the problem isn't the fact that there's an age gap, but that you both clearly have problems connecting because of the age gap.
You have to understand, you are feeling heat from your parents, and maybe even her friends - well imagine the heat she is getting.
Imagine what her parents would say, what alot of her friends would say about this.
In the end, they accepted it since they like her, though.
I've been through two serieus relationships (one two years, other one and a half years) and I'm her first boyfriend, even one of the first guys she ever talked to.
I'm also starting to think we don't want the same from a relationship.